Well, then, look at your gauge carefully. When something comes along, measure it. If it falls outside of the length of your gauge, say "no". One man cannot do everything, no matter how much he desires to. I pass on several activities every month because I want to spend my time otherwise: with my family, trying to make a living, sitting in a tree learning to play the flute, etc. And eating/sleeping/etc. When I was young in the Craft, I tried to do it all. My wife took me aside one day and reminded me that I, as a Mason AND otherwise, had an obligation to my family and that I had been taught that this obligation came FIRST. In other words, she taught me how to use my gauge: family, God, work and refreshment. After that, your time is your own.